We are five weeks in with a newborn and two kids and it sure has it been a whirlwind! The first two weeks have definitely been the most challenging. Figuring out how to manage the household outnumbered has been hard. Going from one to two kids was easy for us, going from two to three has been a game changer.
Our oldest is five and is pretty independent so that has been very helpful. We’ve let her know that we need her help. My time has obviously been consumed by the baby, my husband has taken on the role of managing our older two. He gets up in the morning with them, makes them breakfast, and gets them off to school. Depending on how the morning is going, I help out with the morning routine when I can.
We’ve kept our meals really basic the past few weeks so we can minimize the cleanup.
This post was written over a year ago and I found so many things still holding true today.
I’ve gone to bed with dishes in the sink and laundry that needs to be folded, sometimes it’s been sitting there for a few days. Having dishes in the sink is one of my pet peeves but I’ve learned to let it go especially right now.
As hard as it is, sleeping when the baby sleeps has been the one thing I’ve actually stuck to which is why the other things have taken a backseat.
One of my favorite quotes is
“Saying no to something now means you’re saying yes to something else.”
Saying no to some household chores right now means I’m saying yes to more time with my family and my health by getting rest.
This season won’t last forever.
If you have kids, at any given time it looks like a bomb exploded in your house. Toys are everywhere, clothes are everywhere and you constantly feel like all you’re doing is picking up and wonder if it will ever end.
As someone who loves to organize, having kids and toys took my control of organization to an entirely new level. While I’ve learned quite a few new hacks and do enjoy finding new ways to organize toys. Most importantly I’ve learned to let go. There is going to be a mess for awhile because our kids our young but they won’t be young forever. That is what I constantly remind myself when it feels like our house is out of control.
You strive to have an organized home but most the time it’s not and really it’s okay to go to bed with a messy house and here’s why:
Family Time- If you’re constantly picking up after your kids it’s lost time spent with them unless of course they’re going to bed. This can be a hard thing to grasp, but they won’t be in your house forever. Learn to figure out when it’s important to make sure it’s picked up and when it’s not, this won’t happen overnight and you’ll get better at it the more you practice at it.
Staying Sane– “If mom is not happy, no one’s happy” keeping your sanity is important because if you don’t you won’t be as effective as a parent and or in your prefer professional career you’re constantly feel stressed.
More Productive– When you’re not constantly picking up your house, you’ll feel more motivated to want to get it done all at once. It’s like your ‘To Do’ list, when you have a longer list you want to knock it all out at once. When your list is shorter, it tends not to get done as quickly.
When you go to bed with a messy house on occasion you’ll be doing yourself a favor. You’ll be spending more time with your family, not losing your mind, and will be more motivated to get it done the next day.
Do you go to bed with a messy house? How does it make you feel?